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Noelle Bridgman-Wile's avatar

Confession: what I find most troubling about internalized misogyny is that *I don’t even realize I’m judging women to a higher standard than men* even as I’m doing it.

I’ve come so far from the way I was raised, and grown beyond the culture I live in. And I’m proud of that, because it’s taken deliberate focus, and curiosity, and a high tolerance of discomfort. But this still gnaws at me.

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Allison Hiltz's avatar

It can be really uncomfortable to start acknowledging the ways that we've internalized misogyny, especially for those of us who see ourselves as pushing back.

I recently wrote about how the Moms of TikTok, of all people, made me realize that how I choose to silence myself when it comes to writing about certain things isn't really for the reasons I told myself, but because I'd internalized some of that messaging, too.

But once we know it, we can't un-know it, and there's a lot of freedom that comes with that, but it also can mean recognizing where we've been too kind or unkind, and that can be a tough pill to swallow.

Thanks for laying out all of the ways this can happen!

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